It’s possible for a person to be going through life without ever having met themself. The whole idea behind meeting yourself sounds outrageous. After all, you’ve known yourself since the day you were born, right? Wrong. Throughout our lives, we meet different people and we create relationships with them.
In the middle of taking care of ourselves mentally, it is important not to put too much pressure on ourselves and understand that it’s perfectly okay to have a bad day. Not every day will be filled with rainbows and sunshine. We’re humans, and sometimes we will feel down. Embrace all those emotions and don’t try to sweep them under the rug.
Happiness is found in appreciating and enjoying every season you’re in. There is a lot of negativity that comes with expecting to be happy when you’ve reached a different season in your life. “I will be happy when I’ve graduated”, “I will be happy when I’m rich”, “I will be happy when I am married”. So in the meantime, are you going to be unhappy because you’re still in school? Are you going to be unhappy because you don’t have a lot of money?
“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are” ~ Max Depree
This seems like a simple and straightforward quote, yet in its simple-ness and straightforward-ness, there is hidden complexity. This complexity comes in that you need to first call yourself out on your bad habits and toxic traits before you can become the person you aspire to be.
It is essential to realise and appreciate the power you have over your thoughts. One can have a bad day simply because they entertained a bad thought. You may not necessarily be able to control what comes into your mind, but you can definitely control the way you react to it, together with the length of time it stays in your mind. And that realisation is a game changer.
The connection between these two concepts is simple: in order to better yourself, you need to first love yourself. It’s principal to accept who you are and love yourself for it. All your strengths, weaknesses, powers, and flaws. Only through loving who you are, can you tap into the magnificent world of bettering yourself.
Many problems are solved when you stop fighting with the current and learn how to go with the flow. Before getting into this, it is important to understand that you have to deal with a problem mentally before you face it in the physical world. It all begins in the mind. A prerequisite for winning a battle externally is winning it internally.
“And if you call me at 4am, too sad to even say hello, I will listen to your silence until you fall asleep.” ~ Unknown.
The writer of this quote is unknown, but it could have been any of us. Any one of us who has encountered true friendship. When it comes to friendship, the importance is in quality, not quantity.
There is a misconception in our society that has gone on for long enough, and that misconception is that crying makes you weak. Crying is always associated with weakness, wrongfully so. This is partly the result of socialization. Socialization is the way we are made to see the world and the beliefs and values that we acquire from childhood.
One of the most important things you could ever do for yourself is learning how to enjoy your own company. Being alone does not have to equal being lonely. This is a vital concept that we have to carry everywhere. The reason why I put this idea on a pedestal is because I truly believe that it is a major key to happiness.