We can’t control everything in our lives. Many things have to be accepted as they are. However, there is one thing that we can control, and it’s worth more than the other things that we cannot: the energy we allow around us.
I learnt these two life changing phrases this year and yes, you read that right, LIFE CHANGING. What seemed like two silly phrases that you merely use to escape the reality of a situation became an easy way to remember one of the most important rules of life: change what you can and accept what you cannot. A number of wise people, who will be discussed in this post, have shared the same sentiments using different words. But the bottom line? It is what it is and we move.
Sometimes the strain you put on yourself is unnecessary and it’s important to know when you are in these scenarios. Unnecessary strain is usually accompanied by dreams of being successful, fear of failure or simply a need to be productive. However, the thing about putting unnecessary pressure on yourself is that it usually does more harm than good, especially for your mental wellbeing.
Journaling is a key that helps to unlock an emotionally smarter version of ourselves and unfortunately, many people do not utilize this extremely useful key. We can win the battles that go on in our minds when we’re stressed or we’re overthinking by taking out those emotions and putting them down on a paper or a screen through journaling.
It’s possible for a person to be going through life without ever having met themself. The whole idea behind meeting yourself sounds outrageous. After all, you’ve known yourself since the day you were born, right? Wrong. Throughout our lives, we meet different people and we create relationships with them.
In the middle of taking care of ourselves mentally, it is important not to put too much pressure on ourselves and understand that it’s perfectly okay to have a bad day. Not every day will be filled with rainbows and sunshine. We’re humans, and sometimes we will feel down. Embrace all those emotions and don’t try to sweep them under the rug.
Happiness is found in appreciating and enjoying every season you’re in. There is a lot of negativity that comes with expecting to be happy when you’ve reached a different season in your life. “I will be happy when I’ve graduated”, “I will be happy when I’m rich”, “I will be happy when I am married”. So in the meantime, are you going to be unhappy because you’re still in school? Are you going to be unhappy because you don’t have a lot of money?
“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are” ~ Max Depree
This seems like a simple and straightforward quote, yet in its simple-ness and straightforward-ness, there is hidden complexity. This complexity comes in that you need to first call yourself out on your bad habits and toxic traits before you can become the person you aspire to be.
It is essential to realise and appreciate the power you have over your thoughts. One can have a bad day simply because they entertained a bad thought. You may not necessarily be able to control what comes into your mind, but you can definitely control the way you react to it, together with the length of time it stays in your mind. And that realisation is a game changer.
The connection between these two concepts is simple: in order to better yourself, you need to first love yourself. It’s principal to accept who you are and love yourself for it. All your strengths, weaknesses, powers, and flaws. Only through loving who you are, can you tap into the magnificent world of bettering yourself.