Hey Bloomers! 🌼 If you were asked to list the last ten kind or empowering things you said to yourself, would you be able to fill up that list? So often people go through life either saying unkind things to themselves, or simply not making an effort to be conscious about the way they describe themselves. This blog post will challenge that, and encourage you to speak highly of yourself.
Without hesitation, you would speak highly of the people you love. You would say uplifting, kind, and loving things about them because that’s the way you see them. Of course there are negative things that you’d notice. After all, no one is perfect. But you’d rather spend your time speaking highly of them and if anything negative was said, it would likely be as an effort to make them a better version of them self.
Why then, do some people use every opportunity possible to talk down on them self? Sometimes it might not even be a conscious decision to do so, but rather, a lack of positive words for oneself. It’s necessary to consciously use time and effort to speak highly of yourself, as this will tremendously improve the quality of your life.
If this describes you, it’s not your fault, and it probably comes down to the fact that that’s how human beings are wired. There is something called negative bias that I discussed in this blog post. In summary, negative bias means that we as humans have a tendency to give more importance to negative experiences than to positive or neutral ones. Maybe then, we as humans also tend to fixate more on the “negative” aspects of our lives instead of shining light on the more favourable things. This is why it is important to make a conscious decision to focus your attention on the wonderful things that make you who you are. As mentioned on the last blog post, what you focus on, grows.
Take a moment to reflect on this…
You have achieved so many things in your life, things that were once only wishes. Things that other people are dreaming about. That is proof that you are absolutely capable of doing anything that you set your mind to.
You have amazing character traits that have improved not only your life, but other people’s too (even if you are unaware of it!). Those are beautiful traits and they make you the unique and special human being that you are.
On the topic of being unique and special… In a world that tells people that there is only one standard of beauty or attractiveness at any given point in time, understand that this is simply untrue and the uniqueness of every individual is proof of that!
In all the areas of your life, make it a mission to speak highly of yourself. A life of peace and satisfaction is on the other side of comparison and negative self-talk. A life of peace and satisfaction is on the other side of complacency.
The interlink with self-confidence
Put in the work to become the person who views yourself in the most positive light in this world. There are countless benefits to this, including the way you socially interact with others. Unfortunately there are people you will encounter in this world who try to put you down and lower your self-esteem and confidence. Don’t give them the opportunity to be successful by not having a strong foundation in your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is absolutely crucial and mastering it truly has the power to transform your life. And the special thing about self-confidence is that it taps into the most important and material parts of people’s lives. This includes the way you feel about yourself, achieving your dreams, the way you behave, and even the interactions and relationships you build with people. It infiltrates both your personal and professional life.
Something that has that much power to influence your life path and level of happiness is highly worthy of attention.
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The concepts of self-confidence and speaking highly of yourself are interlinked because without that confidence, it becomes difficult to believe when you do speak highly of yourself. Therefore, that starting point, even if imperfect, is necessary.
So, how does one start speaking highly of them self?
One practical way in which you can start speaking highly of yourself is through the highly controversial topic of self-affirmations. However, even with all the noise around it, it is important to note that there is science behind self-affirmations and when used correctly, they have the potential to drastically change how you view yourself, and hence behave.
The next blog post will discuss self-affirmations and other ways of getting into the space of speaking highly of yourself, so make sure that you subscribe below to get a notification when it is up. And if you have any thoughts on this blog post, let’s talk in the comments section! 💕💕💕
I will conclude with a fitting and beautiful Bible verse:
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praise of him who called you out of darkness into the wonderful light.1 Peter ch 2 vs 9
Remember these words about who you are, and speak about yourself accordingly.