Hey Bloomers! 🌼 First things first: your peace of mind is extremely important. Keep that in mind as we have this discussion. People are divided on the issue of social media. Some believe that it’s destroying our lives, others believe that it’s super beneficial, and then there are those who lie in between these two groups. This blog post is for the people who want to continue using social media, but acknowledge that it comes with some toxicity. The best way to deal with the adverse effects is learning how to use social media wisely, and this blog post will help will that.
Having clear intentions
When you know what you want in life, it’s difficult for outside forces to sway you in a direction you don’t want to go in. In the same way that we’re intentional about the career paths we want to follow, friends that we want to keep, and how we want our faith to grow (as examples), we should also be intentional about the “smaller” things, such as our use of social media. For instance, one’s use for social media could be to intended to meet new people, keep in touch with friends, grow a business, or even see funny memes and videos. By knowing the intention(s), one can easily see when they have diverted from that intention, so that they can bring them self back in line.
One such diversion (and a big part explaining why social media is sometimes toxic) could be comparisons. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other people on social media, but if you know why you’re there in the first place, you’ll be quick to get out of that trap and back to where you should be. It’s about being conscious and mindful of what you’re taking in. If you understand why you’re using it in the first place, you obtain some control. You’re controlling your use of social media, instead of being controlled by it.
Mute, unfollow and block are your besties
At the beginning of this post, I stated that your peace of mind is extremely important. By the time you close any social media app, you should feel happier, and not sadder. Why would you use something that makes you sad? The mute, unfollow and block options are some of the best things that have ever happened in the world of social media. It allows you to take control, and only see the things that benefit you and make you happier.
If you leave social media feeling unhappy about yourself because you just spent the last hour comparing yourself to other people, their looks, success and all the other things they seem to be doing better than you, it’s time to make use of the unfollow option! Yes, you may be a big fan of a certain celebrities, but do a cost-benefit analysis. What is it that you’re truly gaining from following them, that could possibly be more important than your peace of mind? If you’re unhappy, unfollow. Simple.
What if you’re dealing with a situation whereby you’re triggered by the things being posted by someone you know personally? This is where the mute option comes in, because we can’t control what other people do with their pages. If you don’t want unnecessary beef with someone, just mute them. You won’t see their posts on your timeline, they don’t have to know, and your peace of mind is protected.
And then the mean people? Block them. Toxic people? Block them. Annoying ex who won’t leave you alone? Block them. No one should be safe from the block option 😂 There’s no reason why a person should accommodate toxic people at their own expense.
Make use of the advantages
Luckily, it’s not all doom and gloom. Social media does have tons of benefits which we can use to our advantage. Because of social media, we can now connect with people across the globe. This is helpful when one wants to make friends, or even market their business. People who have a large social media following don’t have to pay for advertising, they do it themselves, on their pages. Social media can also be used to learn new information and skills that’ll be helpful for making money or for personal development.
And one of my favourite things about the internet: it can be a very funny place. You could be having a bad day and a meme will turn that around for you. That’s how we should be using social media, for our benefit, for good. It can also be selflessly used for the benefit of others. For instance, this could be through raising awareness about the issues that are going on in the world or donating money for a worthy cause. Tapping into the positive side is a clear sign that you are aware of how to use social media wisely.
This is the test: if you’re leaving a social media app feeling positive or fulfilled, then you’re using it wisely. If not, it’s time to make some changes.