People vs The energy you allow around you

We can’t control everything in our lives. Many things have to be accepted as they are. However, there is one thing that we can control, and it’s worth more than the other things that we cannot: the energy we allow around us.

You are capable of creating an environment for yourself in which you feel happy, safe, loved and at peace. This environment is created by being selective regarding the energy you allow around you. If you want to be at peace, you have to invite and allow peaceful energies in your environment. It’s not rocket science. A toxic environment is not going to give you peace. 

One of the ways in which you can do this is by looking at the people that surround you. The people in our surroundings, whether we would like to accept it or not, shape our environments. Some people make their lives way more complicated than they have to be, and way more stressful than they have to be, simply because they do not take the time to analyze the people that make up their environment. The people in your circle need to be people that you can trust, people that care for you, and people that you share GENUINE love with. With these kind of people around you, safety, love and peace will not have to be things that you fight for. They radiate naturally. 

Pay Attention

Your life is too precious to give anyone and everyone a seat at your table. As beautifully stated by Love Raya, “not everyone is capable to travel with you in life“. You don’t have to entertain negative and toxic people! If you find that there is shade and jealousy constantly being thrown around in your relationships, these relationships are not for you. These people could also be undermining you, unsupportive, and clearly without your best interests at heart. There is no reason why you have to put up with that. 

As self-aware people, we may also realize that we are the ones at the end of that stick. The ones throwing around the shade and the jealousy. The ones being unsupportive. And even in these instances, it is clear that the relationships are also not for us. And it’s alright to accept that. When it is you who is giving off these negative vibes, there are probably some deeper issues that you need to deal with. But until then, it is wise to distance yourself from people that you do not have genuine love for. It’s not fair for neither them nor you. And in order to heal, you need to surround yourself with love and light, instead of negativity and darkness. 

The Inner Circle

Sometimes you may feel the pressure to continue being “friends” with some people because, for instance, you have mutual friends. In cases such as these, remember that not everyone needs to be in your INNER circle ⭕️. Having mutual friends does not have to automatically make someone part of your inner circle. Keeping them in your outer circle is sufficient. Peace is extremely important. It’s not good for you to continue pretending to be friends with people that are constantly bringing you down. You deserve to be happy. And anyone in your immediate surroundings who does not radiate positive energy does not deserve such a huge role in your life. You decide on the energy you allow around you. Remember that.

Distance or communication?

However, while “cleaning out” your environment, remember to be kind about it! Some people are mean in the name of “protecting their peace at all costs”. But when done wrong, you may not get the peace that you desire. Eliminating someone from your life is highly effective, but does not have to be the point of departure. You cannot just begin with canceling everyone from your life. Just remember that there are two kinds of people that may be removing from your peace: those who are just straight up toxic, and those who are unintentionally slowing you down. Know the difference. And approach the situation accordingly.

COMMUNICATION

The power in knowing the difference is extremely important because you don’t want to be in a position where you remove someone from your life who adds more than they remove. Someone that you need in your corner. For instance, someone may be supportive, loving and caring, and the only problem that you notice from them is emotional dependency: they seem to be dependent on you emotionally. Every time they are in a dilemma, they rush to you and expect you to help solve the problem. This is obviously draining but instead of tossing them out of your life: COMMUNICATE. Let them know how they’re acting and how it’s negatively impacting your life.

Someone who loves and cares about you deserves a chance to know how you feel, instead of simply being eliminated from your life. It’s a blessing to have someone who has your back. Don’t throw that away because of a little flaw. Everyone, including you, has flaws. So, communicate. That is the route to a better and more fulfilling relationship. You cannot repay the love and loyalty that your friend has given you by tossing them out of your life without giving them a chance. As the golden rule states: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Karma will always find its way to you, make sure it’s the good kind.

DISTANCE

The second category are the people who are just straight 👏🏾 up 👏🏾 toxic 👏🏾. There is nothing to debate about in this instance. Nothing should go above your peace of mind. Your life is your own, and you are responsible for the energy that you allow to surround you. There is absolutely no reason why you should put up with people who constantly look down upon you and who you feel do not genuinely love and care for you. Genuine love and care is obvious. You don’t have to guess whether it exists or not. It is absolutely clear. Anything else outside of that does not deserve a place in your life. There is no reason why you should travel on a road that doesn’t serve you.

However you eliminate these toxic people depends on you and your personality. I always find that slowly drawing yourself back is the nicest way to do it. The bottom line is that if a relationship removes more from your life than it adds to it, there is no smart reason as to why you should be in it. 

Closing remarks about the energy you allow around you

You are in charge of the energy you allow around you. Your peace of mind and happiness should ALWAYS be your main priority. Don’t compromise them for anything. Having said that, always remember to be evaluative of the people around you. Know the difference between a relationship that needs communication and patience and one that you need to distance yourself from. And act accordingly. ✨